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about relationship

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"It's like the ebb and flow of every relationship," Aniston says. "It's hard; it gets easy; it gets fun again. What's hard to sustain is some ideal that it's perfect. That's ridiculous. What's fantastic about marriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person, and looking across the room and saying, 'I'm still here. And I still love you.' You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriages within marriages. That's what I love about marriage. That's what I want in marriage. It's unfortunate, but we live in a very disposable society. Those moments where it looks like 'Uh-oh, this isn't working!'—those are the most important, transformative moments. Most couples draw up divorce papers when they're missing out on an amazing moment of deepening and enlightenment and connection."

She sighs heavily and turns away to light a Merit cigarette. "That's not Brad's view of it," she says, glum again. "We believe in different things, I guess. You can't force a relationship, even if it's your view of how you would like it to be conducted. Obviously two people leave a relationship because there's a different thought pattern happening. My goal is to try and achieve a very deep, committed relationship. That's what I'm interested in, but it's someone's prerogative to be or not to be in or out of a relationship
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昨天你电我
一点点惊讶 一点点伤感
一点点心疼
 
你说你其实还没决定
所以我说了许多
尽管 尽量让自己保持客观
但是现在
我仍然抑制不住地一厢情愿地想要说：
——珍惜啊！！
抛开世俗的很多种因素
这世上真正属于我们的东西其实并不多

其实我知道你懂得
或者我比你更加理想主义
但是人生不需要这样的苛求

很是巧合
就在前一天
ex问我同样的问题：
除却可以任意的拿去说给人听的理由之外
真正的原因是什么？

人生理念不同——我一直跟每个问起的人这么解释

诚恳地说
这的确是我认为的原因
但更重要的 不是这两种不同的人生理念本身
而是 —— 我对它们的包容度

我始终无法将那样的人生理念纳入我的生活
这是我的weakness之所在
所以我举着一个拿得出台面的理由
抢到了那个叫做主动的位子

现在轮到你了
你看得到我当初洒脱的样子
但是相信我
我不仅仅是希望看到一个你和他的happy ending
更重要的 是心疼你
谁都不想为曾经错误的选择自责不是吗

好吧
我承认我一厢情愿
所以最后还是让我们回归客观
如果你真的想好了
那就做吧
不管什么样的情形
抓我来用就是了
兼职：抱枕 纸巾 或者垃圾桶。。。。
随便你
我很多面的 这点尽管放心
^_^